Welcome to Libra Season, creators of beauty! This year’s Libra season is infused with Eclipses, meaning that the usual Venus-ruled Libra who loves love and beauty, helping you emphasize relationships means some serious business. Why you love love, Libra? Aren’t you sick of the same partner archetype that ends up draining your bank account or energy account and hits on your bestie and gaslights you?
My sense is you are sick of it. Well, you are in luck!! This Libra season, we are looking at patterns in our relationships, particularly around why our peckers, uh, I mean pickers, might be off a bit. Why we might delve into people-pleasing, ignoring our own needs and wants, to support our partner’s needs and wants.
This is your time, witch, to break any co-dependent patterns, and finish that damned karma already. Libra excels at finding and maintaining balance, which is what makes them excellent diplomats, mediators, and judges, but also puts them in a quandary in relationships. They can beautifully see each side of an argument. They understand the complexities of each situation, including complex or difficult pasts. And what I mean by that is they often will see a big red flag in a person, friendship, romantic partner, spouse, work situation or other relationship, and then look right on past in, climbing into way back machine and putting themselves into the story—wanting to heal the wounded child. While it is great to have empathy and compassion, it isn’t great to justify bad behaviors. We often hear it as justifications and excused—"She was abandoned;” “He was cheated on;” “They had a bad day at work,” “their parents always screamed at them, that is why they scream;” or “They were not nurtured enough as a child and that is why they are:” angry, mean, short, abusive, unkind, unfaithful, etc, etc, etc.” (Fill in your favorite excuse for being treated like crap.) These are the shadow of mediator, the one that wants to remain so objective, they take themselves out of the equation of care.
Whether it is a relationship or a situation in life…if it has a number of sides, Libra is well-acquainted with each of them. But this can often lead to analysis paralysis—or for my Tarot peeps, a Seven of Cups type situation. I always want to scream, “Choose yourself, Libra.”
Sometimes Libra season embroils itself so much in compassion and empathy, the self gets lost. Libra will sometimes be in the space of having no idea what they want (that’s the analysis paralysis, I was talking about.) In relationships, intuitiveness, compassion and empathy make them favorite targets of narcissists and attachment-wounded individuals.
Of course, when Libra realizes this, they often cut and run. Because when we look at the light aspect of Libra (seeking and maintaining balance), we need to address the shadow aspect too (acting impulsively in an extreme way). So, in Libra season, if your instinct is to say, “F*ck all y’all.” Stop. Practice the Sacred Pause, and gives yourself the gift of getting curious about the desire to cut everyone out.
Listen, humans can complicate a paper bag. We are never all light or all shadow; we are often a beautiful mélange of our wounds and our wisdom. We hope to be on the path of not lashing out, of self-discovery and peace, but we are wounded, and wounded complicated people sometimes act out of their wounded self. Libra always strives to balance the two (wounds and wisdom), but hell, we are human. We can be frustratingly predictable when we get our feelings hurt. So, give yourself grace. Love yourself when you are most unlovable. And remember Libra is ruled by Venus/Aphrodite, Venus can sometimes be smitten with the façade, the beauty someone presents, rather than the complex truth of the individual. So, seeing a red flag and protecting yourself isn’t being judgmental. It is being discerning, intelligent. It doesn’t not mean you never talk to that person; it means you hold space, take them where they are, and then meet them with your empathy and kindness without having to fix them, adopt them, take them on as a project or marry them. ‘Mkay?
This Libra Season, I encourage you to find the equanimity within yourself. Who are you? Libra is a Cardinal Air sign, meaning it is heady, intellectual, thoughtful, and can be an excellent leader if that self-knowledge is there. Where Libra gets muddy is if they are subsumed in another person, ideology, dogma, religious group, identity beyond the self…they can lose who they are. Subsequently, when the Sun is in Libra, we can sometimes tap into that energy whether or not we have Libra in our charts. Approach each day checking in with your emotional regulation or emotional sobriety…where am I on the emotional sobriety chart if the Dalai Lama is one end and fall down black out punching drunk is on the other? Take the Sacred Pause before speaking, check in with yourself. Here is my usual inner monologue when I take the Sacred Pause: “You good, bitch? You gonna lash out or shut down? Can you access your wisdom? How old are you, Mami? Did you invite Spirit into this conversation? Do that now.” And if I am going to lash out or shut down and I cannot access my wisdom, I politely excuse myself, or say, “Hey, I’m feeling a little weird or emotionally dysregulated. Let me take a minute and come back to this convo. Kk.” Then I go do something calming—meditation, gentle movement, pulling weeds, journaling, pulling tarot, scrolling tiktok (though that could be addictive, so be careful with that one.)
Healthy relationships are not about completing each other. They are two fully formed and fully realized individuals coming together on parallel paths with their own desires, goals, dreams, sexuality, work, and identity. Libra brings beauty, compassion, love, empathy, but it has to start at home, so take care of you during Libra season. It wants to gift us with the tools for centering the self, honoring your identity, bringing peace, and balancing polarities, as long as your own house is in order. As Ram Das said, “We are all here to walk each other home.”
